Author: Neftalí Ramirez
March 20, 2020
“I just took a DNA test turns out, I’m 100%, THAT BITCH”-Lizzo.
I want to preface what I’m going to say by saying that it is OKAY to not be okay or to have moments of weakness. Those are the times we must reach out and not be ashamed of asking for help. Women are incredibly strong, but it’s okay if you don’t feel that way all of the time, and you never have to carry things all on your own.
As a woman of color, it is easy for me to see society’s implications regarding what it means to be a woman. For example, the tired and overplayed idea that women belong in the kitchen. The idea that we are put on this earth to keep our homes and submit to men. No shade to women who have chosen this for themselves, but it shouldn’t be the card dealt to ALL women simply because they are a woman.
Let’s start to paint a clearer picture of who women are. Women are bosses, creators, innovators, and the reason that this earth still has life! Honestly, that is sooo badass. The world couldn’t survive without us. We are powerful, amazing, intelligent, strong, and sexy as hell. Let’s own this definition of women to the fullest extent. Keep your hand raised in that meeting or in class. Don’t let your male coworker or classmate steal your idea (again). Don’t be silenced. Reach out to other women and stand up together.
A woman is a woman. Let me say it louder for the people in the back: A woman is a woman. A woman is a woman, whether their hair is long or short, whether they wear makeup or not, whether they wear their favorite comfy hoody and sweats or a dress. A trans-woman is a woman. A gay woman is a woman. There are no “ifs,” “ands,” or “buts” about it. Let’s be the first ones to shut down any negative conversations regarding these women.
Perpetuated social constructs have partially paralyzed women’s ability to choose, dream, and live. It has given others the ability to choose what we can and cannot do with our bodies, whether that be in regards to reproductive rights or otherwise. It causes us to limit ourselves and to strive to be a good employee but never the CEO. We live in fear as we walk to our cars at night with our car key at the ready in our fists.
We must shift the narrative and stand up for each other, strong and united. How we live isn’t a competition, it is our legacy. This is our chance to forge a future for ourselves and the women who come after us so they can dream big and fight hard (I miss you Warren), and for them to never doubt their abilities and leadership capacities. We do it for them because we all know who runs the world.